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Love, sex and money, have been a subject for debate for many years. Some have tried to prove that they are mutually exclusive. I Wouldn’t even try to pinch anyone’s panties on this matter.

Have you ever given critical thought into why single ladies enter into romantic relationship with married men? Or all you do when you see them is to just conclude. What we always say is,’hmm, girls and money”.
We find it easier to understand why men cheat on their wives. Boredom, frustration, unfulfilled fantasies, freedom,I can go on.
Allow me to take you on a journey into the mind of a lady who makes a decision to fornicate with an adulterer.

To make this easier I’ll just itemize:

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    Ladies find it hard to stay single

these days, its like a curse on them when someone asks and they have to say they are single. They are desperate to be with someone, not because they want to but they feel the need that they have to. They don’t want a situation where the guy would get serious enough to want to get married but at the same time, he would be good to them.
2. Some ladies believe that if a married man could approach them, it means that there s something he needs from the wife at home that he s not getting. They fall under the illusion that maybe he has found it in them and perhaps he will leave his wife for them.
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    These married men are very caring

they know how to take care of business. They make these ladies feel like queens. This makes some ladies stick to these men like tick on cow. Personally, its like believing rice is as good as food could get. These married men appear caring just because they have ladies at home, they have lived with women, they know exactly what ladies want. They cannot give it to the ones at home because it will make them look weak so they prefer to be vulnerable to the ladies outside. The singular reason for that is they can get rid of the ladies fast. Sorry, I m supposed to be talking about the ladies.
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    These ladies want freedom

from engaging relationships. They want a relationship that wouldn’t grow into anything. A stagnant relationship is just appealing to them. Married men don’t want to be with ladies that want to follow them around. They want ladies that have a life of their own, sort of. They wouldn’t even complain about the ladies extra affairs, all they care about is getting what they want when they ask. Damn, I am talking about the guys again! Anyway, independence seeking ladies date married men!

5.

    Most financially stable men are married

I wouldn’t say for sure that ladies need money excessively, but one thing I m sure they want, comfort. They like to be comfortable, even when they don’t deserve it. The only men that can give funds and won’t ask for too much, I mean all they ask for is probably sex and some attention.

I do not really need to advice ladies not to enter into relationship with married men, but I ll mention these:
1. Everything he tells you about his plans for you are lies.
2. He will never leave his wife for you.
3. He is with you just because he can send you off easily.

Feel free to share your thoughts!

Falling in love is easy , living in love is hard.
Falling in love is chemistry. Getting married is arithmetic. To love, nothing is put into consideration. You just look into each others eyes and it just feels good. You just want the person, without thinking about any aftermath.
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Louis de berniéres:

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”

After reading this, there is not much for me to say about love.
Lets talk about getting married.
Love is just action, marriage is decision.
Before you go into marriage with someone, you get to consider lots and lots of issues. You weigh multiple prospective spouses, you make research, you look at potentials.
At this point, don’t tell me you re in love. If you re, you ll just go do whatever with your eyes closed. You won’t even hope for the best because, love is unconditional. I shake my head.
Even if I agree that love is unconditional, getting married isn’t!
Getting married is filled with all sorts of conditions.
In the movies, you get married because you are in love. In real life, you get married to fall in love.
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Don’t be deceived, of you ‘decide’ to get married, make sure the terms are favourable.
Do it on your own terms. Don’t ever be blinded by love.
It is those terms that keep you there ( marriage). When the sparks and shines in your eyes’ fade, the conditions, that made you decide to love,  will make you keep loving.

It is said, love is blind and marriage is the cure. Don’t let it be that it is when you get into marriage that you realize you need some math.
Use marriage to open that vast avenue to love without condition.

So, I don’t know about unconditional love …but I understand unconditional marriage!

Till next time…open your heart wider than your eyes!