IT IS MARRIAGE, NOT LOVE

Falling in love is easy , living in love is hard.
Falling in love is chemistry. Getting married is arithmetic. To love, nothing is put into consideration. You just look into each others eyes and it just feels good. You just want the person, without thinking about any aftermath.

Louis de berniéres:

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”

After reading this, there is not much for me to say about love.
Lets talk about getting married.
Love is just action, marriage is decision.
Before you go into marriage with someone, you get to consider lots and lots of issues. You weigh multiple prospective spouses, you make research, you look at potentials.
At this point, don’t tell me you re in love. If you re, you ll just go do whatever with your eyes closed. You won’t even hope for the best because, love is unconditional. I shake my head.
Even if I agree that love is unconditional, getting married isn’t!
Getting married is filled with all sorts of conditions.
In the movies, you get married because you are in love. In real life, you get married to fall in love.

Don’t be deceived, of you ‘decide’ to get married, make sure the terms are favourable.
Do it on your own terms. Don’t ever be blinded by love.
It is those terms that keep you there ( marriage). When the sparks and shines in your eyes’ fade, the conditions, that made you decide to love,  will make you keep loving.

It is said, love is blind and marriage is the cure. Don’t let it be that it is when you get into marriage that you realize you need some math.
Use marriage to open that vast avenue to love without condition.

So, I don’t know about unconditional love …but I understand unconditional marriage!

Till next time…open your heart wider than your eyes!